Getting a divorce is stressful, even when it's really for the best. Oklahoma divorce laws can be complicated. Then, there are the far-reaching emotional effects of the divorce process. Here at Justice Legal Team, PLLC our Oklahoma divorce attorneys understand that this is more than a legal process. Here are our 4 best tips to help you manage your stress during your divorce.
Make Time for You
The divorce process takes a lot out of you. It takes time and energy. You must make time for yourself. This doesn't mean that you have to rush out and find a new significant other. This is time for you to reconnect with who you are. It could be time for you to rediscover or even discover old and new hobbies. It is a time for you to decide what you want to do in the future.
It can be a good time to find a therapist or counselor if you have found that you see patterns in choosing people or relationships that aren't good for you. Having a professional to talk with can help you break old patterns and learn more about what is better for you and what you do want in life.
Ignore Oklahoma Divorce Statistics
According to US News, Oklahoma divorce statistics are 10.40% per 1000 married couples. If we want you to ignore the statistics, why would we bring them up? Two reasons:
1. We point them out to show you that you're not alone when it comes to divorce. Most of your friends are probably divorced (and probably more than once). This doesn't make them a failure. For most Oklahomans, divorce is simply a fact of life.
2. Oklahoma divorce statistics (divorce statistics in general) are skewed. You've probably heard that half of all marriages end in divorce. Yet, according to US News, 10.40% of every 1000 married couples get divorced. That's certainly not half. It also doesn't include other factors such as income, race, or age. Those factors also play important parts.
Thinking about divorce statistics and that you're just another statistic is a definite way to raise your stress. Sometimes, marriage doesn't work out. Divorce is often the healthiest option. Instead of thinking about it as an end, think about it as the beginning of a healthier opportunity for each of you to have a better life.
Don't Go Out of Your Way to Argue
You wouldn't be getting a divorce if you could get along with your former spouse. While there are many things you need to settle to get your divorce decree signed by the judge, don't go out of your way to argue with your former spouse. Yes, there are boundaries. Yes, you should assert yourself and not be a doormat. No, you should not tolerate abuse of any kind.
However, going out of your way to argue with your former spouse simply to make things more difficult because you're getting a divorce only prolongs the process.
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Seek Help from an Experienced Oklahoma Divorce Attorney
While you can technically file an Oklahoma divorce on your own, the court clerk and the judge cannot give you legal advice. And if your ex decides to hire a divorce attorney, then what? That attorney won't be looking out for your best interest. At the very least, having a divorce attorney on your side can make sure that any settlement offer presented is fair.
What if your ex is particularly hard to deal with or abusive? What if they harass you? Dealing with an ex on your own can be extremely stressful. An experienced Oklahoma divorce attorney can be extremely helpful in these situations. They can help you assert yourself according to Oklahoma divorce laws.
Schedule Your Consultation with an Oklahoma Divorce Lawyer Now
Oklahoma divorce isn't an easy process. It can be incredibly stressful. You don't have to handle your divorce alone. Justice Legal Team, PLLC has a team of experienced Oklahoma divorce lawyers here to help you. With flexible and affordable payment options, we're here to help. Schedule your consultation now.